Hello!
1.
I'm not entirely sure if this is what you meant, but when a beginner has few or no ratings on Numista, it is generally common for the beginner to ship first rather than for both parties to send their packages at the same time.
2.
International shipping costs can be relatively expensive, so very small swaps may sometimes be avoided. In my opinion, the deciding factor is usually the value of the coins involved rather than the number of coins or their weight. Of course, there are many variables, such as using unregistered mail to reduce shipping costs, so it is always best to discuss the details with your swap partner.
3.
This varies by country, but in my experience delivery can take anywhere from 7 to 30 days. I have only used registered mail, and so far I have not encountered any problems.
4.
If your swap partner sends the package by registered mail, they will usually provide a tracking number. If they send it by unregistered mail, they may provide a receipt or other shipping information. Of course, you will generally be expected to provide similar information when you send your package as well.
The points above are simply practices that I believe are commonly followed to facilitate smooth and successful swaps. However, every swap is different, and these practices are often applied flexibly depending on the circumstances and the agreement between the collectors involved.