Swapping rant

I'm getting mighty pissed off with people that ignore my settings.  I 've got a pretty small swap list and I'm working through a few swaps at the moment so I've changed my settings to "I don't want to swap at all at the moment"  But this does not seem to deter people.  I've had 5 or 6 people contact me asking for swaps, some of them even said "I know and respect the fact you don't want to swap....but how about a swap"  how exactly is that respecting that I don't want to swap?

I don't mind if it's people I have swapped with in the past looking for another trade, that's fine I'm happy to deal with people I know and trust.  But it's the people who I have no idea who they are contacting me out of the blue, and their swap list is usually full of generic stuff from the year 2000 onwards that I have no interest in whatsoever.

Anyone else getting these requests?

Swap request sent...




.....j/k  
Being a noob to the site myself I don't really have this problem.

Quote: glorkarSwap request sent...

GRRRRRR if you did, I'd be coming over to deliver the coins PERSONALLY!!  

Kidding of course, but it does really get on my nerves.  I'm reasonable new to swapping, I've only been doing it since about November last year, but I guess I must just have coins that everyone wants.

Quote: neilithicI guess I must just have coins that everyone wants.

yep.

Wow! There's a shocker. People want to swap coins with you on Numista, a website for swapping coins. You seem to have a profile on this website, right? Hate to break it to you, but, you are pretty active on the forum, Captain Caveman. Maybe, some people just want to be next in line when you resume swapping? Answering 5 or 6 emails must be a backbreaker, especially seeing your high post count and new topics popping up all over the place. A few more rants like this one and you may not have to worry about anyone contacting you, or wanting to.  First class rant, congrats.

To answer your question, yes, I get requests regardless of what my settings indicate. They all get a response and I have no problem with this happening on Numista. These settings are a deterrent, not a brick wall.

It's not the amount of replies I have to give,  it takes hardly any time to say "no, go away"  it's the fact that if you have your settings selected as "I DON'T WANT TO SWAP" It's just bad manners to request one.  It's the same as the maid walking into a hotel room that has a "do not disturb" sign on the door.

Quote: neilithicIt's the same as the maid walking into a hotel room that has a "do not disturb" sign on the door.

I don't see it that way at all. You are more than entitled to your opinion, strict approach and interpretation of these settings. Keep in mind, this is primarily a place for swaps. I really can't associate this with a hotel room and privacy issues. What you are saying would be the equivalent of telling your contact list they can't send or forward you an email while you are busy or away. Despite email filters and automatic vacation notifications, you still get your emails when you return. That's just my opinion.

I believe that people on this website look for swaps and communicate by searching out coins. The coins your profile is attached to, make them reach out to you regarding those coins. You seem to be making this about the rudeness towards you of an inconsiderate maid/swapper. Trust me, it's not about you, maybe you shouldn't make it about you either. I can't believe someone can get so bent out of shape over nothing. It's just people clicking and typing to your Numista profile. This isn't your personal email and definitely not your hotel room. This is the right place and it's always the right time to approach people about swaps on Numista. Strange that you would see this as a bother, simply because you decided to click on some setting and someone still reached out. People will approach you in the hope that you will eventually return to swapping. They want to be next in line and are only thinking about the coins. You are making this about how close/friendly you are with someone, the weak coins in their list, their inconsiderate approach and their disregard for your choice of temporary settings. Seems strange to me, that's all.

Quote: torontokubaKeep in mind, this is primarily a place for swaps.

I don't view this site as primarily a place for swaps.  Most people on this site don't swap at all.  I see it more as a reference tool to help identify my coins and catalogue them.  I joined in March 2011 and I only started swapping in November last year.  If you view it as primarily a site for swapping then that's up to you.  Personally I don't bother people if they say they don't want to swap, and I don't see why others would do so because it makes me less likely to want to swap with them.

the hotel room reference was to show I believe it is a disregard for the wishes of others.  If I put a "do not disturb" sign on a hotel room it means I don't want to be disturbed.  If I put up a "no junk mail sign" on my letterbox it means I don't want to have junk mail, if I put up a "I do not want to swap" notice on my profile it means I do not want to swap.

The only thing I can say is - they all come at once then nothing. I have 5 or 6 going on or nothing.

Quote: neilithicI don't view this site as primarily a place for swaps.  Most people on this site don't swap at all.  I see it more as a reference tool to help identify my coins and catalogue them.  I joined in March 2011 and I only started swapping in November last year.  If you view it as primarily a site for swapping then that's up to you.

Sure, why don't we let each member decide for himself/herself which of the home page, top three uses are most important to them. In no particular order of importance   ...

Quote: neilithicthe hotel room reference was to show I believe it is a disregard for the wishes of others.  If I put a "do not disturb" sign on a hotel room it means I don't want to be disturbed.  If I put up a "no junk mail sign" on my letterbox it means I don't want to have junk mail, if I put up a "I do not want to swap" notice on my profile it means I do not want to swap.

I wonder if new strangers will keep approaching a swap partner, if the know they are viewed as disturbing maids or junk mail.  

Quote: ALLRED1950The only thing I can say is - they all come at once then nothing. I have 5 or 6 going on or nothing.

True, that happens sometimes.

I have three swaps in progress right now and a couple have been turned down recently. At least four of them ignored my current "... doesn't want to swap coins for the moment." status. I am happy to take the time and see if we can make a swap happen, especially if someone takes the time to reach out. All this at a time when I really have no desire to swap. It doesn't bother me.

I will not be starting a topic ranting about it, making references to disturbing maids, weighing if someone is a friend or stranger, questioning the common modern dates of their coins, comparing their approach to junk mail and just being all up in arms about someone's interest in my swap list. I'd be afraid that this sort of attitude would make me come across as full of disdain and a little pompous.